Every time you respond in a calm and loving way, your child is learning from you - it takes time, patience and connection. When you read your child's behaviour as 'distressed' rather than 'naughty' you are more likely to react in a kind and comforting way. 'Time in' is the new 'time out'. By viewing distressed behaviour as a learning opportunity, you will be providing the very best brain care for your child.
Have you ever heard of the phrase ‘connect before you correct’? You can do this when your child is distressed by seeing things from their point of view:
First tell them calmly that you can see that they are frustrated/angry/sad and you know how difficult that is; this helps you to connect.
Then explain clearly why they can’t have, or do, what they want
Finally support them with problem solving so that they may handle things differently next time. This will help your child to think for themselves and to be able to cope.
We’re not perfect all the time, so if you have not responded to your child’s behaviour in the best possible way, always make a repair (explain in a simple way why it happened) and stay connected. It’s never too late to change the way that you do things. This shows your child how to learn and move on from mistakes.